Source URL: https://youtu.be/o2Gg2K0_Qe8
Dr Justin Coulson
Parenting expert
War of words
Things parents should never say to their kids.
So to speak
The harm of telling your kid to calm down.
❌Calm down.
Dismiss their emotion
✅I can see you're upset.
Give thanks
The problem with parents giving praise.
eg: You're so clever.
❌You're so clever!.
✅How did you feel when....
You do you
The danger of comparing your kids to others.
eg: You just like your father/mother.
❌Urgh, you're just like your mother.
✅Wow, this is really challenging for you.
Unhelpful Uttering
Should parents ban "Because I said so"?
eg: You just like your father/mother.
❌Because I said so.
✅Well there is a reason that I asked....
No kidding
How to avoid teaching victim mentality
eg: You just like your father/mother.
❌I was lousy at that.
✅It's amazing what we can do when we try.
All the rage
How to respond in the heat of the moment
eg: You just like your father/mother.
❌What a stupid thing to do.
✅Say nothing.